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A little bit of self love

Happy HeartDid you know that January was ‘Self Love Month’?

You’d never be able to tell from the TV schedules, crammed with weight loss programmes, or the magazines and newspapers full of New Year’s resolutions about how to make yourself thinner, richer, fitter, healthier…

To counteract the misery of giving things up (I have decided that January will be the month I give up alcohol, cut down on my coffee and don’t buy ANYTHING I don’t need) there’s Self Love Month. Stop giggling, I’m not talking about that kind of self love, although if it sends you to work with a smile on your face in the morning, I’m all for that, too. No, it’s all about doing something for yourself, something nice.

According to Daylle Deanna Schwartz; “Saying “No” to what you don’t want says “I love me.” Buying the better product for a few dollars more says “I love me.” Doing exercise says “I love me.” Gratitude says “I love me.” Self-forgiveness says “I love me.” Accepting your imperfect self says “I love me.” Breaking people pleasing habits says “I love me.” Walking away from people who don’t show you respect says “I love me.” Cutting yourself slack says “I love me.”

The Self Love Movement is dedicated to helping you boost your self esteem, and there’s a book (free to download at How do I love Me and a Facebook Challenge group where you can add your name and pledge to do nice things for yourself. If you’re shying away from the pure selfishness of doing lovely things just for you, think of it as an investment. If you don’t feel good about yourself, if you don’t take care of yourself, really you’re in no position to be able to support, help or take care of anyone else, are you? It starts with YOU. And in the words of a certain mildly irritating advert “You’re worth it!”

I know we’re all a bit hard up in January. But doing something nice doesn’t have to be expensive. It isn’t for me; I have a spa trip lined up for next week and all I have to do for it is write something about it afterwards for a magazine. I really can’t argue with that and the thought of a day or two of pure indulgence in a healthy way is filling me up with all kinds o’ happy thoughts.

What are you going to do that’s JUST FOR YOU?


5 thoughts on “A little bit of self love

  1. Mia Jones says:

    Surely Self Love is about doing what it says? So why isnt getting a little bit fitter, losing a bit of weight and generally looking after yourself not seen as Self Love when surely this is the essence of the point! Obsesity costs the NHS (and therefore us) £5.1Bn per year, so losing weight, getting fitter etc will also have financial benefits as we would all love to have more money!

  2. Positive Sarah says:

    That’s what I’ve said! I’m doing the cutting down and getting fitter routine myself, as I’ve mentioned already.
    The January TV and magazine articles are all designed to make us feel bad about ourselves so that we spend money. Doing something for yourself might be walking, swimming, reading a book or it could be a gym class if that calls you. It might be eating fresh, healthy food or it might be having a cake. If you’re doing something nice for yourself that’s great. If you’re being bullied into diets, exercise, or whatever because you feel as if you have to, or you’re feeling not good enough…that’s not self love, it’s punishment.
    Self love isn’t doing things that you think you OUGHT to, it’s really thinking about what’s going to make you feel good for YOU.

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