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A little bit of self love

Happy HeartDid you know that January was ‘Self Love Month’?

You’d never be able to tell from the TV schedules, crammed with weight loss programmes, or the magazines and newspapers full of New Year’s resolutions about how to make yourself thinner, richer, fitter, healthier…

To counteract the misery of giving things up (I have decided that January will be the month I give up alcohol, cut down on my coffee and don’t buy ANYTHING I don’t need) there’s Self Love Month. Stop giggling, I’m not talking about that kind of self love, although if it sends you to work with a smile on your face in the morning, I’m all for that, too. No, it’s all about doing something for yourself, something nice.

According to Daylle Deanna Schwartz; “Saying “No” to what you don’t want says “I love me.” Buying the better product for a few dollars more says “I love me.” Doing exercise says “I love me.” Gratitude says “I love me.” Self-forgiveness says “I love me.” Accepting your imperfect self says “I love me.” Breaking people pleasing habits says “I love me.” Walking away from people who don’t show you respect says “I love me.” Cutting yourself slack says “I love me.”

The Self Love Movement is dedicated to helping you boost your self esteem, and there’s a book (free to download at How do I love Me and a Facebook Challenge group where you can add your name and pledge to do nice things for yourself. If you’re shying away from the pure selfishness of doing lovely things just for you, think of it as an investment. If you don’t feel good about yourself, if you don’t take care of yourself, really you’re in no position to be able to support, help or take care of anyone else, are you? It starts with YOU. And in the words of a certain mildly irritating advert “You’re worth it!”

I know we’re all a bit hard up in January. But doing something nice doesn’t have to be expensive. It isn’t for me; I have a spa trip lined up for next week and all I have to do for it is write something about it afterwards for a magazine. I really can’t argue with that and the thought of a day or two of pure indulgence in a healthy way is filling me up with all kinds o’ happy thoughts.

What are you going to do that’s JUST FOR YOU?


Times it by ten

DoorstopI’m reading ‘The Magic‘ by Rhonda Byrne at the moment, and one bit has really made me think. Relationships. Without them, we don’t have a reason to do most things. If it wasn’t for other people, why would artists paint, musicians compose or inventors invent?

Research studies have come up with the finding that for every negative thing we say or think about someone we love, we need to counteract it with ten positives. If the negatives start to creep up, things start looking bad and eventually it could lead to disaster.

I reminded myself of that when I found the washing that my beloved had forgotten about still in the dryer along with the snotty tissue he’d managed to shred in there. Lucky for us, he’s got way more than ten positives to his name and I think I can forgive shredded tissue, even if I muttered to myself when I found it.

So, my thought for the day is that it’s all gratitude. Once you learn to really appreciate the people in your life, and think positively about them, you’ll start to notice the good stuff even more … and there’ll be more of it to notice. Which just has to be good!